persha davis is the author of dumpeddays, a blog offering advice to help you cope when your relationship ends and you've found yourself on the wrong side of romance.
Here are Persha's "Five Rules For Life":
1.) Risk Failure.
Life presents many opportunities for us to make decisions and take actions. Sometimes, irrespective of the preparation that you have done, you hesitate. If you hesitate too long, doubts will linger and turn into fears. Yes, you may stumble. Yes, you may be rejected. Yes, you may fail. This is life. Life’s winners accept that in trying, they may have to adjust and even start again and again. The difference between successful people and others is not whether you make mistakes or even temporarily fail, but how you respond.
2.) The best person for you is the one who makes you a better version of you.
We live in a world where more and more people are looking for love, "the one" and a life of "happily ever after". In my life time, I have found that the right person has a magnificent way of making you better. When you look at who you become in someone else's presence, you learn a great deal about your relationship with that person. When you are around him or her, if you become better and happier - then that's the person for you.
3.) You can't always control what happens.
Sometimes life presents circumstances beyond your control. As much as you may want to or like to, you can't always control what happens in your life. However, you can control how you react to what happens. It is always a balance between finding, keeping, and maintaining a healthy approach to life’s obstacles, and not letting them beat you down.
4.) Close the door on the past.
The past is only alive if you keep it alive. You can’t change yesterday but you can build today for tomorrow. Don’t shackle yourself with regrets. Don’t start feeling sorry for yourself. Whatever your previous circumstances, others have gone through the same or worse. Appreciate yourself as a tested survivor. Learn from the past, but don’t assume that your past automatically equals your future.
5.) Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Life continues to throw all sorts of things at us rapid fire. Sometimes more than we think we can handle. But you can handle it. Somehow, some way, you'll make it through and you'll come out on the other end, stronger and wiser.
Persha currently resides in California